Dating and Relationship Tips | Jim Sullivan - Dating and Relationship Coach

Dating and Relationship Tip: First-date Protocol

You have an opportunity to talk about yourself—always be positive and never talk about any horror stories growing up! Listen to what the other man is saying and you’ll pick up a wealth of information.

Remember the one thing people love to talk about the most is themselves. You may be tempted to interrupt, or to stop his story with yours. Don’t. Put your tongue to the roof of your mouth and count to ten before you say a word. Let your date wax eloquent.

Keep your energy up on a date. You’re not looking for perky/phony excitement, but the ability to carry on an animated and interesting conversation. If your date asks you about previous relationships, just give him the facts, not all the details. “ I was in a six-year relationship which ended two years ago.” There is no reason to explain how it ended. If your date asks what happened, for now you can simply say, “It was time to move on.”

Watch your wandering eye during a date. If you’re at a café and see other attractive men from the corner of your eye, keep the focus on your date, no matter how attractive the guys at the next table are. It is rude to comment on the good looks of other men in these circumstances. You’re on a date! For this brief time—if not forever after!—this man needs to be numero uno.